Dua hari di Pontianak, dapet beberapa cerita dari orang-orang yang gue temui. Gue jadi banyak banget merenung. There are still so many less fortunate people than me. Good people who didn’t get the chance to live the life they should’ve had. And here I go again, having a conversation with my mind about how life is so unfair to some people, while there are people who complained about things they don’t have instead of taking care of things they have. Me, is one of those people. Well, not all the times, some times. And the more I think about it, the more I feel ashamed with myself. How I complained over petty things. Insignificant things.
We often forget one simple thing: to be grateful for what we have.
And there are people who don’t believe in themselves because they simply think they would never make it.
For example: this guy:
I was in Pontianak when I met him, and watched and listened to his voice. He was so incredible. He has this recording voice that was so sultry and husky kind of voice. I was blown away by his voice. So I told him, “with this kind of voice, you could win Indonesian Idol!” He just laughed. I told him again, hey, I am serious! What he said stunned me.
“People like me … we don’t stand a chance.” And then, he left after saying thanks a few times.
After he left, it struck me really hard. Choipan di depan gue jadi tak begitu menarik lagi.
How many people actually believe they could achieve great things in life? How many were given the chance to do so?
How many has the courage and create their own ‘chances’?
How many were let down by people around them, telling them that they won’t stand a chance at all to shine?
How many confidence were shattered because people close to them always say, “Don’t you dare to dream because you will fail”?
How many would laugh when that person says, “I will do this because I think I can”?
You know what? Selalu ditertawakan dan direndahkan oleh orang-orang terdekat mengakibatkan dua hal:
Kepercayaan diri runtuh.
Bertekad membuktikan diri.
Dan banyak sekali orang yang nggak pede akibat selalu dijadikan bahan tertawaan. Pernah ngetawain fisik teman yang gendut? Pernah ngetawain teman karena tampangnya jelek?
Pernah mikir dia akan nggak pede selamanya?
You might think it’s funny when you point your finger and laugh at your friend for their physical appearance. They could scarred for life. Terdengar lebay? Well. Bayangkan kalo elo yang diketawain dan dihina.
Setiap hari.
That.
You maybe wanna read what people told me that night via Twitter. Here are some of the screen captures.
Yes. Those are real people. Maybe they are your friends. Maybe they would just laugh when you throw physical jokes to them. And this. Have a read:
Seringkali kita bersikap superior dan menghina-hina orang terdekat kita just because we think, “it’s okay kok ngebego-begoin sodara sendiri. Kan, dia sodara gue.”
Think again. Apalagi yang lo bego-begoin punya krisis kepercayaan diri, memang dari sananya nggak pedean, memang nggak bisa/nggak mengerti peer yang dia kerjakan, dlsb.
Also, read this:
That’s it for today. Always remember this: emotional scars are always worse than the physical ones.
2 responses to “People Like Me, People Like You, People Around Us.”
Postingan dan semua komentarnya sukses bikin mewek tp untungnya belum pernah sampai ke tahap yang mau bunuh diri.
Dari kecil sering dibully dikatain kuruslah, cacingan, jangan sering keluar rumah nanti diterbangkan angin, kulit dibungkus tulanglah, tidak pernah dikasih makanlah, dll ngefek jadi tidak percaya diri sama badan dan merasa bersalah banget punya badan kayak gini. Saya 46kg 165cm, ke tempat umum sudah sering dengar orang bisik” ato ngasih pandangan aneh sama berat badan saya. Kalo sekarang mah sebodoh amat kalo ada ngebully. Kata ibu ‘mending kurus tapi sehat, jarang keluar masuk RS’.
Waktu SMP sy pernah kecelakaan terus gigi depan patah. Hinaannya datang dari keluarganya ibu sampai” tdk pernah mau ikut kalo kumpul keluarga. Juga suka dihina karna muka jerawatan parah, acne scarnya dimana-mana. Sama keluarga dihina abis-abisan. Sampe punya trauma tdk berani liat cermin, kalo jalan pasti nunduk trus muka ditutupin pake rambut.
Sebagai korban bully saya cuman bisa maksa ketawa dan senyum didepan mereka, tanpa mereka tau tiap malam sy cuman bisa nangis di kamar. Mau becanda ato serius, langsung ato tidak langsung, efek bully yang bertahun-tahun berpengaruh terhadap mental dan kepercayaan diri seseorang.
Gue selalu mengalami hal ini, dan gue selalu ikut tertawa untuk menutupi rasa sakit gue sambil berdoa semoga mereka bisa mengerti dan kuat disaat semua yang mereka lakukan berbalik kepada dirinya. Karena gue percaya perilaku kita akan berbalik kepada kita sendiri. Gue selalu sedih bukan karena diri gue, tapi orangtua gue seandainya mereka tau, bahwa anaknya direndahkan oleh orang lain, terutama fisik. :’)